Oh fuck. This is really beautiful.
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maymay:
During the Blues Recess Gender Bender, I went to a long session called “Interrupting Oppression.” Here’s a short list of suggested words and phrases that can help you when you feel the need to call out an oppressive behavior.
Present your thoughts—point out what you see happening.
“I noticed that you are talking really negatively about yourself.”
I noticed that you used the word [insert-oppressive-language-here]. What did you mean by that?”
“That sounds kind of racist to me.”
“It sounds to me like you’re uncomfortable with her because she’s [insert-non-oppressive-language-here.]”
“It seems to me like you’re being pretty judgmental.”
“I’m sure you didn’t mean to offend me, but you did, and let me tell you why….”
“Ouch! I did not like that.”
“I can’t believe you just said that.”
Ask Questions
It sounds like you think that all [insert-description-here] people are [insert-oppressive-language-here]. Is that what you really think?”
“Do you have any idea why what you said might hurt someone’s feelings?”
“Did you know that members of that group find that hurtful?”
“Can you say more about what you mean?”
“Where did you hear that information?”
“I wonder why you think it’s okay to comment on other people’s bodies?”
“What does that person’s (race, ethnicity, sexuality, age, ability) have to do with this conversation? Do you specify if someone is white, heterosexual, and able-bodied?”
“Do you know how that word has been used historically?”
“What do you mean when you say…?”
“Excuse me?!” (said with disbelief) “Do you realize what you’ve just said?”
”Do you believe what you just said?”
Humor
“You know every single person who is [insert-description-here] and they are all exactly like that?”
“Do you believe what you just said?”
Adapted from: OCADSV Participant’s Manual 2001. Unlearning Oppressions & Ally Model Training Material. “How to Interrupt Racist Comments—Principles for Eliminating Racism.” Pg. 35-36. “Interruption Skills.” Clackamas Women’s Service and Volunteers of America Home Free.
I don’t have the wherewithal to share more of my thoughts at the moment.
Do you have suggestions for words or phrases that you use to interrupt oppression or to call out oppressive behavior?
This isn’t perfect but quite a lot of them are useful.
I use the first humor option all the time.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4ap29BU7B1qzs83po1_1280.png)
During the Blues Recess Gender Bender, I went to a long session called “Interrupting Oppression.” Here’s a short list of suggested words and phrases that can help you when you feel the need to call out an oppressive behavior.
Present your thoughts—point out what you see happening.
- “I noticed that you are talking really negatively about yourself.”
- I noticed that you used the word [insert-oppressive-language-here]. What did you mean by that?”
- “That sounds kind of racist to me.”
- “It sounds to me like you’re uncomfortable with her because she’s [insert-non-oppressive-language-here.]”
- “It seems to me like you’re being pretty judgmental.”
- “I’m sure you didn’t mean to offend me, but you did, and let me tell you why….”
- “Ouch! I did not like that.”
- “I can’t believe you just said that.”
Ask Questions
- It sounds like you think that all [insert-description-here] people are [insert-oppressive-language-here]. Is that what you really think?”
- “Do you have any idea why what you said might hurt someone’s feelings?”
- “Did you know that members of that group find that hurtful?”
- “Can you say more about what you mean?”
- “Where did you hear that information?”
- “I wonder why you think it’s okay to comment on other people’s bodies?”
- “What does that person’s (race, ethnicity, sexuality, age, ability) have to do with this conversation? Do you specify if someone is white, heterosexual, and able-bodied?”
- “Do you know how that word has been used historically?”
- “What do you mean when you say…?”
- “Excuse me?!” (said with disbelief) “Do you realize what you’ve just said?”
- ”Do you believe what you just said?”
Humor
- “You know every single person who is [insert-description-here] and they are all exactly like that?”
- “Do you believe what you just said?”
Adapted from: OCADSV Participant’s Manual 2001. Unlearning Oppressions & Ally Model Training Material. “How to Interrupt Racist Comments—Principles for Eliminating Racism.” Pg. 35-36. “Interruption Skills.” Clackamas Women’s Service and Volunteers of America Home Free.
I don’t have the wherewithal to share more of my thoughts at the moment.
Do you have suggestions for words or phrases that you use to interrupt oppression or to call out oppressive behavior?
This isn’t perfect but quite a lot of them are useful.
I use the first humor option all the time.
Omg cis people
Stop making me look bad.
This drunk message brought to you by fucking cis people stop being ignant organization.
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The whole “posting this on the internet” thing is kind of awkward because it makes it seem as though I am not crying so hard that my face hurts. All should be assured that I am. My best friend in the whole world, Riley Wipf, (January 1, 2002 – May 22, 2012), has just passed away. He went very peacefully. For all he has done for me, the least I owed him was the peaceful passing he experienced. I am glad that some people got to meet him before he passed. For all who did, you know how amazing of a being he was. He will be missed every day. The above picture is of our last visit to Poe Middle School together earlier today.
I love you, buddy. I am missing you so much.](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4gd25iA1T1qgrgbgo1_1280.jpg)
[cross-post from facebook]
The whole “posting this on the internet” thing is kind of awkward because it makes it seem as though I am not crying so hard that my face hurts. All should be assured that I am. My best friend in the whole world, Riley Wipf, (January 1, 2002 – May 22, 2012), has just passed away. He went very peacefully. For all he has done for me, the least I owed him was the peaceful passing he experienced. I am glad that some people got to meet him before he passed. For all who did, you know how amazing of a being he was. He will be missed every day. The above picture is of our last visit to Poe Middle School together earlier today.
I love you, buddy. I am missing you so much.
Marketing Campaign of the Day: Apparently, most women have hard-and-fast “rules about what they won’t put in their vaginas.” This new spot for Sir Richard’s condoms elicits said rules — though they seem to involve specific types of men, more than anything else — and promises the condom brand won’t add any chemicals, either.
Happy National Women’s Health Week.
(See also: Sir Richard’s spot defending sluts.)
[adweek]
give me trans* people with vaginas or give me death!
portraits of a lady
on my way to the dean’s reception because my boyfriend is graduating from college or something?!?!?!
the lip shimmer is more nicely visible here
and I’m reading Portrait of a Lady! I would not mind SEX with RALPH or if Ralph had sex with Warburton?
in conclusion, Ralph/Warburton OTP
ETA: if you have any idea what my hair’s big idea is, please tell me—what is it doing, WHAT
i love your hair’s big idea! don’t question!
